It’s been raining a lot here and it made me think about something. Maybe you’ve also experienced someone responding with “well I am a product of my environment” meaning, how they act is from how they were raised or what they experienced in childhood. Now, how anyone was raised is neither here nor there at this point. All thoughts and experiences from childhood are as valid as whatever we go through now.
But the part I want to touch on is, if we whine or complain about something we dislike in life, but we use that statement, what do we really mean? It’s true that we carry habits and tendencies from our childhood and whomever we were around, but can we not change? Are we not adults now, or are you saying that your parents or whomever raised you is still dictating your everyday decisions? By saying “I'm a product of my environment” in that form, are you not just giving yourself an excuse to not try to change and rather, stay in the past?
This is comparing apples to oranges, but we have as much control to change our human environment within ourselves from the types of thoughts we have, to the way we speak, to the habits we keep as much as we do with the weather – if I hate having wet clothes and it starts to rain, well then, I’ll change the environment. Go from outside to inside. I wouldn’t stand outside and dwell on how I hate the rain, how wet my clothes are and how nice it was 10 minutes ago, right? That would be useless. Rather, I would want to use my energy towards something better, a solution – go inside. So how much energy are we using in trying to stay in the past when we can use it to make a change, to better ourselves for the future?
Change calls for action towards something better. Doesn’t have to be life shattering right away - start small, but it can still be scary. We’ve learned familial traumas, experienced heartaches and losses as children that can make us feel like that’s just the way life is supposed to be, but you have grown up and it’s your time to decide what path you want to take and what kind of person you genuinely want to be. It’s scary because you haven’t done it before and it can make you feel like you’re all alone, but you don’t have to be. If you find the right people to help you seek clarity in all of this and help you move forward, you truly can, but only IF you genuinely want to. Don’t like anything? Change your environment.
If I can do this, I know you can💛
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If you need some guidance or have some thoughts, feel free to drop them in the comments!
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