Be the Challenge

"Be the change you wish to see in the world."

What does this mean to you when you hear it?

Gandhi said this in terms of societal means, which results in making an impact to those around you and if everyone was doing it, then essentially the hope leads to world peace or something.

What if you took this to a deeper layer inside yourself? Doing things for others is all well and good, but how long does that "motivation" last?

Sit and think about this for a minute: If you are getting extremely frustrated in life towards everybody around you, what is it truly about? What is the something that you continue to be frustrated at? Yes, it is you - because equivocally you are the common denominator: everyone minus the end result of frustration and cutting people off = you.

So, what is the something?

Take a minute, sit quietly with it.

It's going to get real uncomfortable in here, and that's OK - that's the whole point of this question.

I know something probably came up, now what will you do with it?

What you allow is what will continue.

If you want to change, change will always require challenge. And in this case, the challenge must come from yourself, and will usually come with you having to say no... to yourself.

What do I mean by that? I know that this probably sounds totally foreign because who says no to themselves in this "treat yo-self" era, right.

Let's say you can't seem to lose weight. You will need to challenge your thoughts:

• What are you consistently sliding into saying yes to?

• What are yo find that you are inconsistent in where you need to be more consistent, or sticking to a plan/discipline?

• Now.... why?

Because you well know that if you are to lose weight, there are certain steps you will not only want, but need to take in order to get to that goal, which must be specific. And as we say, "consistency is key." Now, consistency doesn't mean perfection. It's defined as, "acting or done in the same way over time." Like working out, if you say I will work out 4 out of 7 days a week, you can miss Monday, Wednesday, and Friday one week while missing Sunday, Tuesday, Thursday the next and still be considered consistent. You're still hitting the mark, the plan, the target even if you switched up a minute yet truly flexible piece of the puzzle.

But, what if you are consistent there, then there's something else contributing to you falling off. Where is the gap at that point: what are you allowing that you shouldn't be, what are you doing that doesn't truly serve who you are and what you are doing or where you are trying to get to?

Now carry that over other areas of your life, because how you operate in one is usually how you operate in another.

Listen, I know it's hard, but nobody else can do this part for you.

Be the change you want to see... within yourself.

But people don't watch their own language. They will say, I need a change (not I need to change); so I'm going on vacation, I'm going to cut my hair, I'm going to find new friends, I'm going to find a new mate, whatever.

But, you aren't changing. You're only changing external factors. Remember when I asked how long will your motivation keep going when it's about other people? Here you are focusing on your environment, which can help, but what about your internal capabilities? What about yourself deep down: mental and emotional states? Cutting your hair is just surface layer, baby, you're not doing nothing. Like, your hair is going to grow back. You know you got to cut that again when it grows back, who cares haha. I'm talking DEEP down changes because, nothing changes if... nothing changes.

Do you want to change, really?

Do you want to be better, want something for yourself? Not only for yourself, but everyone around you then. Because if you can't give yourself better then you ain't giving them the best of you. Sorry, not sorry, but it's the truth. Don't they deserve the best "version" of you? Doesn't your family deserve the best mom, wife, sister, daughter, brother, son, father? Doesn't your friend deserve the best friend? You get the point.

Again, what you allow is what will continue and if you are miserable for a long time - you are allowing it, and it will continue. If you feel fat and overweight and you are, but you continue to do the things that contribute to it, you are allowing it and it will continue.

And the change that must happen, comes with you also being the challenge.

Are you ready?